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Yes we can help you. If you are prepared and willing to spend a couple of hours per week with us, looking at your attitudes and beliefs about yourself, your anger - and resulting violent/abusive behaviour - and the effects it has on the ones you love. Our programme is hard work and demanding but it can really make a difference to you and your partner.



It is hard to know whether a relationship can be mended or not. That depends on you. From our experience, violence and abuse get carried from one relationship to another, if left unexamined. It is always preferable to make changes now and to get help, rather than hoping it will go away.




First of all we find out whether you are serious about doing something about your violence and abuse. We then tell you more about us and what we offer. We initially offer you 6 to 8 weeks of counselling; whereby you start to tell us your story and together we begin to understand your behaviour and what we need to work on to change it. If you want to continue, and we hope you do, you will go into a group with other men. This lasts for thirty weeks and we hope deepens the previous work you have begun. We focus on your responsibility and your willingness to change and give you practical 'tools' to keep you on course.



From start to finish to complete the full programme - one year. This may seem like a long time but it takes a long time to change established patterns of thinking and behaviour.






Excessive consumption of alcohol and or any drug puts you at a much greater risk of acting in an abusive way. However, the choice of acting crazy and to lose it is always down to you. Yes, we can work together to find ways of responding differently

Only you can change your behaviour, we can help by offering structure and support and by giving you tools to help you think about what you are doing.




Yes it will be. EXCEPT, we will contact others (police, social services etc) if we feel you, your partner or children are at risk. These issues will be discussed with you in your introductory meeting. Our aim is to keep you and your family safe.



Women tell us that they want their abusive partners to
take responsibility for their behaviour and go and get help to stop.